Hi Mate

I thought it would be fun to just update this blog on the DL and then we can each be pleasantly surprised when we log on and find something. So darker brown with caramel highlights sounds fantastic. Anything caramel sounds pretty fantastic. Side note: how good does that recipe for middle eastern millionaire’s shortbread in Sweet sound? So good, that’s how good.  Back to hair. This do by Lucky Buster appeals to me. It’s kind of where I want to go. But then I showed Holloway and said “what do you think of this?”.  He said “I’m not sure you...” before getting cut off by the H bomb going off.  I don’t know whether he was going to say “I’m not sure you should show me these photos because I love them all and could never pick a favourite!!” Or  “I’m not sure you should go there” Or something in between.  The prospect of my boyfriend not liking my hair makes me not want to dye my hair. It’s not like I can’t think for myself or nothin. It’s just that I have no interest i...

So I kind of stopped checking to see if you'd updated this blog after 8 days. Or maybe I checked once or twice more but just saw the heading 'RE: Tuesday thoughts' and didn't realise it wasn't 'Tuesday thoughts'. Anyway, I guess that's one reason it has taken me a week to respond. I have tried dying clothes a few times but it's never been successful. I look forward to hearing more about your experience. What colour?! (I'm sure this makes a different.) How did you do it?! (One time I broke my washing machine doing it.) Did you get an even dye? (I never have.)  You seemed please so I guess you did. This is also exciting about dying your hair. I'd like to do it to. I was thinking about going darker but getting caramel highlights. Obvs I want to go full blonde but the cost and effort is beyond me. In truth the cost of dark hair with caramel highlights is beyond me too but it feels like something that could be achievable in the foreseeable fut...

Finding time for stuff. It's a dilemma as old as time. LOL! But seriously.  Mate, I don't have anywhere near the claims on my time that you've got and yet I feel like have no time for stuff. No time at all. The other day Holloway organized an dinner with a relative of his, of his Dad's generation, who he saw at a funeral recently. It was a perfectly pleasant evening but leading up to it I kept thinking I don't have time to see my actual friends, why the fudge am I doing this?   I'm writing this on the Wednesday that came eight days after the Thursday you wrote your last post. I've thought about writing so many times over those eight days but I've felt like I don't have the time. It's only now, with the little H bomb in bed, Holloway out for the night, dinner consumed and dishes cleaned that I feel like I've got the time to sit in front of a screen and type. And those are the circumstances I feel I need to write something. But they're so i...

Over the school holidays I was feeling pretty stressed out. I had lots of work and no time and also no money and everything seemed to be weighing on me heavily. But I knew some money would come in and some time would come too and I decided I could put off a few bits of work until this week. I could put off writing here for a few days and  I could put off the launch of my Open Letter blog till this week or next. It made me feel a bit more at peace but the time mate! There is no time. Last night A. told me "I want to be a singer or an actor or a (something else I can't remember because there is also no brain space)" I said, "I always wanted to be a singer." He asked me "Why aren't you a singer? You could be. Maybe you will be one day." It was so goddamn sweet. When am I ever going to have the time to write down all the adorable things the kids do? It's very upsetting. This morning when J. was looking at a picture of F. on my phone I said, "T...